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Be Emotion-less to achieve more compassion

Paradox as it seems. I am convinced by logic. Reason with me and if it is reasonable, I will adhere.  On the flipside, I will be the impatient and angry guy if I know that other party is clearly wrong or has no reason to do what he/she did.  I clearly remembered a Phuket Trip with my big family including my bros and sis.  We were occupying 3 tables inside a boat trip and it was supposed to bring us to different islands.  After the first island hopping, when we were back to the boat, I saw a Chinese family occupying our seats. Our kids' water bottles were clearly on the table.  They simply ignored it. After a long wait, they are not willing to bulge. My elder bro asked them nicely (as we are squeezing to 2 tables) but was totally ignored. I got so heated up. Raising my voice and asking them if they were blind. Words exchanged and the situation almost got into a fight. One of the Chinese guy said "妈的!" (Literally means mother) but is a bit of swearing in Chinese context. At

I hope we don't live longer

The average human life expectancy has increased tremendously. When we were nomads, it used to be 30 odd years of lifetime. With science , we manage to create medicine or vaccine that prolongs our life and can 'fight' against the bacteria & viruses that are a threat to humankind or that accidents that are supposed to be fatal.  I mean it is great to be curable from TB or measles. Over the many years, our average life expectancy has increased (as far as my knowledge) from 70 to 80 years old. We are going to have major breakthroughs in making human organs (I believe prototypes are on testing) and eliminating cancer should be within these 10 years.  I should be glad that we can live longer. I am able to learn more, see the world more, get to eat more, have more friends.  There's always 2 sides to a coin. At a macro level,  the implications on society and economy proves a huge burden. With more silver hair folks, the population is exploding. We will hit 7 bil to 9 bil in the

Buddha is not god, Buddhism is not a religion

Buddha is Prince Siddhartha. He wasn't a god, he (to be blunt) found a way to be rid of the material stuff and end all impermanence. He was teaching the students how to achieve it so that we are free from pain and this material world. Nothing last forever, even if you are rich or poor, intelligent or dumb, fast or slow, etc.  A lot of Buddhists thought that believing or praying to Him will help to cleanse their bad doings or debts. The hard truth is that He can't. He is no God, he doesn't take all our sins and ensure you will go to heaven and not hell. See Him as a teacher, like any school subject teacher. He teaches way of life, how to be compassionate and loving, how helping others bring lasting happiness. Nothing to do with race, religion, status or intellilect in this life or next lifetime (if there is).   I do not believe in religion. But I like Buddhism way of life.  Again, it brought back to my topic on Capitalism, dividing the world into countries, not sharing techn

Win-win situation, many do not care.

Whether it is business or personal relationships, many a times we tend to take advantage of the situations. For a business or commercial dealings, is it just to hit sales target? Maybe I cannot comment much since I didn't have much great sales achievement but I believe in building long and lasting relationships, not with the customers only but with vendors, internal teams, even finance dept etc. Everyone needs to win from the project, and not at the expense of any party. If you win with mega projects but doing the customers an injustice, your reputation and word of mouth will hit harder to you.  You become the one-hit wonder.  I wouldn't say that I am the better of many. At least , I maintain that win win mindset to everyone who works with me.   My sergeant also said, don't take my kindness as my weakness. Teamwork is the key to winning with style and build that ongoing relationships.  Can we be given or give second chance to this batch of self centre colleagues or partners