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This blog is directed at the person who recorded the suicide-rescue video!

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This blog is directly aimed at the individual who recorded and shared the distressing video of a rescue team attempting to remove a deceased woman who was hung outside her HDB flat. I am profoundly disturbed and infuriated that this video was circulated and forwarded within my Whatsapp group. The video documented a tragic incident where a woman had taken her own life, and the rescue team was bravely attempting to retrieve her body. The situation was uniquely challenging, given that the woman had hung herself outside her HDB block (it's not ground level). I couldn't bring myself to finish watching the video but made it clear to my group that forwarding it was inappropriate (the video displayed "forwarded many times"). The real story has been covered in detail by Mothership.sg a few days ago, and the video was circulated prior to the official news release, or possibly around the same time. As I drove to work over the past few days, the haunting image of the woman and th
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Adultery: Morally inacceptable or humans made?

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For a start, this is just my personal opinion and it doesn't equate to anyone. It doesn't apply to me. I am using this word as a discussion because it has been a hot topic recently within the Singapore PAP party. Read the news if you didn't know what happen.  I have this discussion with few friends. Morally this is unacceptable. I totally agreed. But if you were to split this topic objectively, only we as humans do not accept it. The society forbids us to do it. If you were to commit it, you are deemed as a disgrace and unfaithful to anyone or everyone you know. It is committing a heinous crime.  Our human society used Marriage & Divorce as a way to ensure fidelity. Do we let the society dictate our love or is it just Capitalism at work?  If marriage and divorce is not in play, there is no adultery. Love changes sometimes and it can be in many forms. Sometimes, we would be closer to the opposite sex but it doesn't mean love in the relationship perspective. This soci
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Am I useless if I don't have a skill?

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In year 2024, I will be half a century old. During 2014 when I am still 40 yo, I started doubting myself, my value, my worth to the society and to my company.  I kept asking what's the purpose of working so hard, what if my kids are all grown up, what's the purpose of living, etc. Thousand and one questions popped up every day, I am not even sure if that is mid life crisis or depression.  Surely suicidal is not my dictionary, that's coward way of facing what's ahead.  But nothing seems to motivate me.  I gotten through those 40 years fairly easily. Fast forward to 9 years more, I am still what I could have achieved at 40 years old.  Nothing major has changed except higher inflation, crazier world, the 2nd wave of generations coming to the workforce, the ever increasing workload, the higher humidity and temperature, etc. War between Ukraine and Russia doesn't seem to stop, US and China too.  Traditional skills or manual labor skills become obsolete but more precious.
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Faking ignorance could be bliss

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Often times, we tried to give positive feedback or suggestions when needed. When we noticed that something or some processes could be improved, I would often voice out what can be done to make it either more automated or make it simpler while maintaining the same compliance or results.  You know that your opinions are not welcomed when they were rejected countless times. People often see you as their threat or your laziness that doesn't want to do stuff but only complaints (when you gave constructive suggestions). Just do it, that's the suggestion. Try before you give suggestions. If I am new to the industries or matter, I will try countless methods and seek guidance.  If I have been there and done that, it doesn't necessarily matter to many bosses. This is not about seniority. I valued second opinion and don't complain without giving alternatives. If that party is simple a deaf ear, fake ignorance could be the best alternative. Do what is needed and move on.  Don't
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That handful of friends

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At different stages of our life, friends come and go. Sometimes, even BFF at no longer around even when we wanted to as we move into courtship, marriage and setting up a family.  However, we make new ones along the way.  In my case, I felt the number of friends are almost constant at different stages in life.  A male friend might leave but another will come into your life. Someone passed away and a new character will appear. It is almost like we are programmed or it could be just our nature , personality and the limited time we had each day.  We choose to believe in the latter that the character decides the way we work, make friends and have fun.  Time to recap whomever that is important left and who came into your life. 
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I am blessed and proud of my kids

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I attended a drama performance put up by my youngest and her team last Friday (KNOTS by Dunman High School EDS) We bought tickets and it was a Secondary School English Drama 'live' performance skits. She has been pouring countless days and nights into this whole act and she is the Exco of this English Drama Society (the stress level as a Chairperson, eeeeyyy) To cut things short, we were awed by the standard of the skits and plays. It can easily go into a long running performance schedule. Maybe next time. The quality and standard of the cast, the backstage, sound, lighting, props, dialogue, and coordination were beyond words.  I am really proud of how she and the team manage to stitch all of it together.  Well-Done! Kudos! I am truly blessed that both my girls can study without supervision and performed well under stress. Note to my girls, health is equally important, don't stress out and do what is happiest for yourself. 
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Common sense should be a subject

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In this meritocracy society (pertaining to Singapore), during my study era (about 30 years back), we were taught to be academically driven for the subjects taught. Though my parents didn't enforce the top scores, we were self-driven from the peer pressure and school teachers. I guess the teachers' intention were for our own good cos the next institution that we were going to enrol in depends a lot on how we fared (our results).  Starting from as young as Primary 3, scoring well 'move' us to Gifted Exchange Program (GEP). We need to go through a series of IQ questions on Maths and English, etc. Then we try for PSLE, then GCE 'O' Level (if our grades made it for Secondary School). Even in secondary school enrolment, there are SAP schools, IP schools, IB-schools, etc. Likewise, we move on to GCE 'A' Level or Diploma or NITEC, etc.  Every stage in our life, we need to be assessed academically. We need to fight for those exams that decide our fate.  I saw a l
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